Rhokath
dæmian
* Raises eyebrow* Wha'd you expect?
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Post by Rhokath on Oct 4, 2004 17:37:18 GMT -5
Hey, it's me, Soda. I think I've settled already, but I'm not sure. My human, Hannah, has passed the point in her life where I should have settled. It happened when she was 11 years old. Now, 3 years later, I'm not yet settled. Or something like that. (if this is confusing, it's because I'm confused. *points to thread title*) For a while I went along with Hannah's assumptions that I was settled. She believed I was, she was just unsure what I was settled as. Now I'm not so sure. I have favorite forms, they just don't feel...right. As in right in the way that I am settled as one of them. like my name. Rhokath. It took us forever to find it, but when wei did wei knew that no matter how wei looked wei'd never find one that fit me better. I love my melanistic clouded leopard form. I am wondering if it is the right one now. Perhaps the fact that I'm wondering about it is telling me that I'm not settled as it. I thought that maybe I was. I just can't think of anything better to fit my human. I've tried thousands of forms, and none work well with her personality. Wei've looked through animal books, the internet, animal documentaries. So far wei've seen nothing that appeals to us. Sure, wei may think a form is pretty, but that doesn't mean it fits. I'm just confused as how to go about this. I feel bad, because I'm supposed to know. Right? Perhaps someone could help me work things out a bit?
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Post by Kiba on Oct 4, 2004 18:55:21 GMT -5
kiba here, talk to her and if you want i will talk to my human Aaron and he can give you guys an analysis of a sort maybe that would help you find the perfect form. when he first discovered that i existed he thought that i was already settled because i was always a wolf. but when things came around i settled not as my common grey wolf shape but as a pure white artic wolf. so just try and find your true form.
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Post by Kirjavi on Oct 5, 2004 18:52:37 GMT -5
Rhokath, wei had plenty of confusion too. Just because you're wondering about a form doesn't mean that it's not the one. Keira and I thought forever about what my settled form would be. For a while, she thought I was going to settle as a Bald Eagle, but that didn't happen. I suddenly took the form of a scarlet fox (that's what wei call it) one day (a form I had never taken on before) and I stayed in it for several days-it just felt right. After a couple days, Keira began to wonder if a fox fit her personality. Wei thought about it for quite a while and it turned out to be right. So just be patient, you'll know soon enough if you have reached settling point and wondering about it doesn't mean it's wrong. So don't worry, wei thought it was hopeless when wei realized I wasn't going to be an eagle!
So the main point of that long and very boring post was that: No, just because you have second thoughts as to your settled form doesn't mean that that's not the one. Just be patient and eventually it'll come to you. Oh and by the way...your melanistic clouded leopard form sounds beautiful and I think that it's perfectly possible that that may be your settled form, but it also may not.
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Post by Kiba on Oct 5, 2004 18:56:03 GMT -5
So very true. you just have to be patient and find the form that fits your human and yourself.
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Rhokath
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* Raises eyebrow* Wha'd you expect?
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Post by Rhokath on Oct 6, 2004 17:18:18 GMT -5
You guys are right. I think the problem is that my human is very confused about herself. Wait...that might be the effect. I dunno. I've tried being patient and letting it come to me, but it's really hard. My human used to go on walks and it helped me organize things and stuff like that. It was like meditating for her. Now she can't go on walks anymore, so wei have to find another thing that works the same way. Until then I guess I'll have to be patient. It's just really hard because sometimes I get super impatient and now is one of those times.... *takes a deep breath and counts to 10* Hannah sees that it would be less stressful if she knew what my settled form is. She has way too much stress already. School stuff mostly. It's hard watching her try to deal with it all and not be able to help. I've tried to be supportive and strong and patient. I guess I've decided that I need advice or something. Whatever I'm searching for by posting it in the first place. Kiba- I might just take you up on that offer. I trust my human's judgement on these matters, but second opinions help. A year ago she went to Okibi and she told us that Hannah seemed to be the kind of person who'd have a bobcat or coyote daemon. It was a long time ago and she's changed a lot since then so I'm not sure how accurate that analysis is anymore. Kir- Your form sounds beautiful. Scarlet fox. Wei like the way that sounds. Your situation is a perfect example of why I never wanted my human to say I was 100% settled as anything. Wei never knew what I might actually be settled as. I wanted her to wait until I told her I was 100% sure of the form and she felt it was right. It just saves us a lot of effort with going around and saying something to the effect of 'oops. Wei were wrong. He's not really [insert form here] but he's a [insert form here]' Too much hassle for us. Besides, wei'd feel bad for putting false things into other's minds. What you did sounds like what wei did. You didn't say you were 100% sure you were settled as a bald eagle. Smart. This kid's got brains! *leaves contemplating the next move*
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Post by Okibi on Oct 6, 2004 17:38:15 GMT -5
Rookie: I'm not settled, and Okibi is going on 17. You not being settled as something at age 14 is no big deal. =P This isn't Oxford. Dæmons don't settle exactly at puberty. Rather than being a physical thing (we aren't physical in this world), it's all mental... Hannah's soul (you)... her personality... it isn't completed settled yet. She's still becoming the person she was destined to be. Be patient. It'll take time.
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Post by Kirjavi on Oct 6, 2004 18:49:34 GMT -5
Exactly, like Okibi said, it really does take time. And who knows, you might not be settled yet. Just because you haven't settled doesn't mean you or Hannah are immature, it just means that you haven't found yourselves yet. Settling, I think, is when you discover who you truly are and respect yourself for that. Oh and thankyou for the compliments, but really wei don't deserve them. But when you do find your true form, I'm sure you'll be something very beautiful . OH and another thing. Wei never said I was 100% percent settled for the same reasons as you. Wei didn't want to have to correct things later and also, Keira takes walks to sort things out also. It's pretty much the only thing that gets her to relax-if even for a little while. It was on a walk wei realized I was settled. Good luck! And tell Hannah not to stress! The form will come to you when the time is right so don't fret about it and I guarentee you'll be something Hannah loves. It just works that way.
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Post by Annie on Oct 6, 2004 21:08:33 GMT -5
I understand, Rookie. I know that I don't have to be settled now. What I find strange about me not being settled is that I should have settled 3 years ago, but have not. I don't know how to describe how I know, but I do. It was on a camping trip...
But now I have really exciting news!!! Hannah was talking to her mom about what she would be if she was an animal. Guess what her mom said? She began describing an animal that was extremely familiar to me. She began saying that it would climb trees, it would have a long tail with rings on it and a slight tuft at the end. She was saying something about a cat. It would look similar to a cat. It would like to stand on it's hind legs. It sounds very much like a red panda (not sure about the hind leg thing...) Hannah asked her mom if she knew about red pandas and she said that it wouldn't be red. Hannah then showed her mom a picture of me that she drew back when I was that black red panda thing. Her mother then said it was almost exactly what she was thinking of....weird..... Then, just now, Hannah showed her mother a picture of a tree kangaroo. Her mom said it was like that too! Perhaps I am a mix of the two somehow. *needs to go on a walk to think about things*
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Post by Annie on Oct 6, 2004 21:09:08 GMT -5
Soda: How'd that happen?? I was logged in as me...
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Post by Kirjavi on Oct 6, 2004 21:54:23 GMT -5
That's great Rhokath!!! That's really neat! I'm glad you guys aren't so frustrated anymore. I'm happy for you .
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Rhokath
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* Raises eyebrow* Wha'd you expect?
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Post by Rhokath on Oct 8, 2004 15:45:35 GMT -5
Well, wei are frustrated, just not about that. Random frustration creeps up on us sometimes. Now it has moved on to school. Not scoolwork but the actual place... Wei get frustrated about the weirdest things.
I have decided that, for now, I like my black clouded leopard form better than any other form. Until I have an urge to become something else, I won't let my unsettledness bother me. Thank you all for giving your advice. It really did help. *hugs everyone*
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Post by SNL_Ali on Oct 8, 2004 15:59:27 GMT -5
Sorry I didn't get to pop in to say anything.....I feel bad now.....but I'm glad your'e feeling better!!! *hugs for Rhokath* I guess I feel a little strange saying I'm 100% settled...I honestly cannot imagine being anything else. After reading this thread yesterday Ali was a little confused and concerned that maybe SHE was just fooling herself that I was settled, so asked me to try being something else. Just for kicks I became an eagle, just for fun, she kind of squirmed a little, and I went back. Neither of us like any other form--even if its a little similar. I don't know.....now I'm a little worried, I'm not sure why........sorry i'm off-topic, but weir'e happy for you, Rhokath!
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Post by SNL_Ali on Oct 8, 2004 16:39:12 GMT -5
(Ali Typing) Alright, now I'm veeery confused. After typing that up there, Tyb just starting freaking out, and then just became this weird parrot-bird-thing. I got out a birdbook, and it says he's an Elegant Trogon.........I thought he was settled......eurgh! Confused!
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mox
rising dæmian
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Post by mox on Oct 9, 2004 8:52:34 GMT -5
Well, wei are frustrated, just not about that. Random frustration creeps up on us sometimes. Now it has moved on to school. Not scool work but the actual place... Wei get frustrated about the weirdest things. I have decided that, for now, I like my black clouded leopard form better than any other form. Until I have an urge to become something else, I won't let my unsettledness bother me. Thank you all for giving your advice. It really did help. *hugs everyone* Soda. Just to let you and Hannah know that Maia has pencilled you into the new portrait in your clouded leopard form (looks pretty cool too, so far), can you get Hannah to let her know details of your colouring and so on. Thanks my changeling friend.
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Rhokath
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* Raises eyebrow* Wha'd you expect?
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Post by Rhokath on Oct 10, 2004 13:10:43 GMT -5
Yay! I'm a challenging friend... that's good right? I'll try to get Hannah to remember to tell Maia the details of my form. It might be a few days or maybe a week. Wei are trying to figure out something about my form, simple thing really, about coloring, but it may take a bit of time. Wei'll have it by the deadline. Just skip me for right now.
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