Human Welfare....

[Zoe 'n' Calosta]

I've been thinking a lot lately about how we can protect our humans from the harsh realities of the world. Unfortunately, thats exactly what it is - reality but I feel so helpless that I can't wrap Zoe up in cotton wool and lock her away forever. It sounds stupid but I needed to get it out as Zoe can't understand how I feel, she thinks I'm like an overprotective father but I can't help how I feel. Do any of you (particularly female daemons with male humans) feel like this and if so, how do you put it in perspective?

[Tyrannus et Callida]

I'm not too worried about him. He has a strong will and he's able to withstand almost anything the world throws at him. The only thing I have to worry about is him getting too over-competitive. He's also, well, a bit arrogant. He won't ever admit it, but he sees himself very highly. He thinks he can best anyone, especially in a battle of wits. But, if he does get himself into trouble, I'm ready to jump in and comfort and advise him.

Um, why particularly female dæmons with male humans?

[Yumi]

Yeah, it is too bad that we can't do more to soften some of those blows...but it's a part of life, and if we protected them from everything, then they wouldn't learn the things they need to. That doesn't mean that there haven't been times when I've wanted to make things easier on her. Just because I know that she's going to have to deal with the hard times and get through them, that doesn't mean I have to like it. But at least we're able to support our humans when things get tough.

This is just a stab in the dark, but maybe the gender choices were because of the whole "maternal instincts" thing? *shrugs*

[cock of teh walk]

I dont want to protect her. I want to run out into it with her. I want to be open to all the realities of the world. Its all you really have in the end.

I think y'all are looking at harsh the wrong way. Harsh is good. it opens up your eyes to the real world.
Life.is.pain. That isnt actully as depressing as it sounds.
Harsh wipes away the sugar coating and lets you see everything for what it really is - shitty. But doesnt that just make the good parts even sweeter? Dont you savour them more that way? Harsh is good. Its the best thing that'll ever happen to you.

[J and Captiosus]

Protect? Hide? Hell, no. J'd kill me if I was like that, and even if she wanted me to be, I wouldn't. Exposing oneself to harsh realities is good--because sooner or later, whether you like it or not, it's going to get you. And it's better you're prepared and used to it. I don't help J hide from reality, I help her accept it. She's pretty good at it sometimes unless she thinks too much about it and dwells on it.

[Zoe 'n' Calosta]

Those are some very interesting comments, and Zoe totally agrees with the harsh-is-good theory, though I don't. It's just, all the things that happened to her whe she was younger, before she knew me and I could help her makes me want to make up for that now. She sees her experiences as character-building but still, it hurts to see her get hurt. I said female daemons with male humans because perhaps it was different to have a male human, they just tend to be less...vulnerable than girls. Zoe hates me saying that but females are more sensitive.

[|3200k1]

Brooke...well...she's an odd bird. She doesn't like reality and lives in her head, but longs for it when things get dull. I can't help but try and talk her down when she takes soemthing too lightly, but I have to talk her up when she gets too stressed and worried. Sometimes she'll curl up and I'll (even though I'm settled) be this big collie-looking black and white green-eyed dog and jsut rest my head on hers and be a protective shield from the outside world. I jsut wish I coul dbe felt....but don't we all?

[Alexei & Kryii]

Zoe said:

Zoe hates me saying that but females are more sensitive.

Not my guy. Alexei is fairly well attuned to emotions, his and others- but there is an incredibly strong pressure to hide it. Guys can't cry; guys can't do anything. He's rolling his eyes at me, but it's true.

I think is is different for me than it would be for Dæmons with a female human, because the 'acceptable' is different. So are the basic, intrinsic modes of dealing with it. It has gotten to the point that Alexei is cynical and optimistic and always smarting off to stay away from showing any real emotion.

And I can't help him. I feel emotions, but I can't share them very well, myself. I feel a need to cloister myself jsut like he does, and I don't know why. Showing any emotion is bad, because then we won't have that wall around us that allows Alexei to be seen as a 'man,' so to speak, in society. Men, aftr all, don't cry. And I find it harder and harder to show emotions myself, the longer I know him.

It's like I'm failing him: I'm here to balance him, and instead we both are trying hard to 'step back.' When any of his frends are in trouble, he is so dedicated to them that he like to kills himself making sure they are going to be alright. He stops listening to me telling him to back off, because he can feel the same pain the other person is, almost. He's very empathetic, even when people think he's jsut BSing them. Except he ignores himself too much.

Less sensitive? No. But he has this need to bury it, to hide it awat, ignore it. As if that would make it not exist, and that would make him a better 'guy.'

[Sayuri & Alla]

Sometimes Alexei worries me, too.. if he's always taking care of everyone else, how is he taking care of himself? I guess that's where us dæmons come in.. but eh.

Don't kill yourself over it, Kryii. I know he's your whole world, but you need to to take care of you too. After all, if you drive yourself insane, who can you care for?

Sometimes I feel inadequate when Sayuri is sad, and I can't comfort her. Usually she waits until she's alone to cry, but more and more she's been 'breaking down' as she calls it. I know she's depressed, always has been, but there's only so much phisical comfort a hare can bring, neh? When she's breaking down, words can barely reach her.. and I feel like I'm failing as her dæmon. She tells me I'm not, and it's just how she is. I know that but I still wish there was something I could do in those situations.

[Alexei & Kryii]

*sigh* Alexei is a bit worried about Sayuri-san as well. And I, in turn, am getting worried about him. especially now that a girl in one of his classes seems to be getting really big into drugs. Sooooo... he's starting to stress. Again. *licks his hand* The problem with human welfare is you can't stop them from doing something so a part of them as helping is to Alexei, but you have to stop them from hurting themselves... *sigh*