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Post by Zoe 'n' Calosta on Apr 4, 2005 15:08:43 GMT -5
Zoe's miserable and now, she keeps on....avoiding me. Not projecting me. I hate it, it scares me. It's because, well her friends just keep trying to change her and she has no one to turn to. And for that, she keeps on pushing me away, she wants to find someone that can understand her like I do but someone who other people can see. In short, she's become a typical, lonely teenager. I hate her friends, I really do. They always try to change her and make her a barbie like them. I feel so bad for her, I want to help her and she won't let me. I'm at the end of my tether. What can I do?!
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Post by |3200k1 on Apr 4, 2005 15:13:01 GMT -5
You just need to be her strength and her piller. She'll depend on you,ever if it seems as if she doesn't. You need to be there so that she won't feel out-of-sorts, but don't try to force yourself on her. She'll return to you,surely.
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Post by Zoe 'n' Calosta on Apr 4, 2005 15:18:45 GMT -5
But why has she changed so suddenly? I hate it, I really do. She's...she's not my Zoe anymore. She's constantly pining and moaning and feeling down and bad about herself. I've told her what everyone else has told her, stated her choices but she still, she needs something that apparently I can't give. I just want to know if anyone has ever been through anything like this. I know she'll come back but I need to be there for her and I can't.
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Post by Tatl & Valian on Apr 4, 2005 15:30:22 GMT -5
She's feeling like this too. She hates herself, and feels bad because she doesn't have a lot of friends.and lets what people say about her get to her. She's basically afraid to talk to anybody. She nothing like she used to be, bold, hyper, and unafraid. I guess we just need to stick by our humans and hope for the best.
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Post by |3200k1 on Apr 4, 2005 16:46:44 GMT -5
Mine was like that last year, as were many of her friends, so I'd like to tell you that it's just a part of their growing up process. i was always there for her and maybe was a bit more understanding, but all-in-all, I couldn't do anything but that. It's not like I could FORCE her to project me. I simply did one thing that was completely against my personality and remained unaggressive and look now- my Brooki's come back to me as a stronger,more enlightened person.
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Post by cock of teh walk on Apr 4, 2005 23:31:46 GMT -5
awww, hush boo's. its ok sshhhhhh..i bet she just needs a change. If i were you twos...I'd-a run-a away from home-a( and bring-a party platta.hee ) You know, change of scenery , flow of adrenaline, time to think, fresh air. Its what i would do.. hashashash its the perfect plan!!
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Post by Key & Nax on Apr 5, 2005 4:19:41 GMT -5
My girl's been feeling much the same, recently, and I'm sorry to tell ya that I can't help much All I know is that I coaxed, yelled at, pleaded and comforted her, and there was nothing that would work or get her to be herself again. I just kept on trying. In the end, she pulled herself out of it because she had me to lean on. The best thing I could do was to keep on trying. I know that's a pathetic piece of advice and it doesn't acheive results on its own. We both worked together to stop her feeling so down on herself, like she was useless, like even I couldn't help her.
So anyway, that's what happened to us. I agree with Brooke that ultimately it was part of a process she went through which we both hated and will probably happen again, but which was a 'growing-up' thing and made her stronger.
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Post by Zoe 'n' Calosta on Apr 5, 2005 7:02:28 GMT -5
Yeah I know it's part of growing up, maybe heightened a bit because of her depression. Zoe has actually been thinking about Ghost's idea for a while but I'm trying to talk her out of it. We'd be in deep trouble and there's nowhere we can really go. Like I said, Zoe doesn't have anybody, except me and now she's feeling like it's not enough
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Post by |3200k1 on Apr 5, 2005 14:59:45 GMT -5
Yeah I know it's part of growing up, maybe heightened a bit because of her depression. Zoe has actually been thinking about Ghost's idea for a while but I'm trying to talk her out of it. We'd be in deep trouble and there's nowhere we can really go. Like I said, Zoe doesn't have anybody, except me and now she's feeling like it's not enough Running away is bad. Don't even consider it. If you managed to get to a city,you'd be broke because no one would employ you without an address, and you'd end up walking the streets and such until you run into people with a switchblade who don't want you in their territory, so they slash your pretty face up so that no one would even want to pay for you (or worse, you run into GUYS with a blade)adn you run out of money for your bhabit and despite the fact that you already look like a junkie, you'd hafta go through all the convulsions and sweating and seizures that happen when you go cold turkey. I guess I went a bit far. Wei've been reading to omuch Charles of late. O.o;
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Post by Zoe 'n' Calosta on Apr 5, 2005 16:01:02 GMT -5
Hehe, very true Rhy....apart from the drugs part.
If you even think about taking drugs Zoe so help me god I will tan your hide!
Did you just say 'tan your hide'? Very redneck Cal
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Post by |3200k1 on Apr 5, 2005 16:04:06 GMT -5
Hehe, very true Rhy....apart from the drugs part. If you even think about taking drugs Zoe so help me god I will tan your hide!Did you just say 'tan your hide'? Very redneck Cal -o.o-; My dad used to say that.
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Post by cock of teh walk on Apr 5, 2005 22:28:27 GMT -5
interesting theory brooke...not quite what happened when i did it , but i suppose it would make a good scare-the-children-into-never-running-away story. um to be honest....it didnt really solve ...any of my problems anyways.
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Post by Annie on Apr 6, 2005 21:09:42 GMT -5
I've been told 'I'll tan your hide' 'I'll bust your butt' and many others. But that was when I was real little.
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Post by Cho on Apr 8, 2005 12:17:11 GMT -5
Don't ever run away-we'd miss you too much. Besides, like what was said earlier, all sorts of bad things can happen. Where would you go if you ran away? surely, there can't be some place to find that's better by running away. You wouldn't know where to go or what to do. Your 14, right? Me too! that's too young to run way. Even if you could get away to somewhere safe, what would you have accomplished? please don't ever do it, I'm sure that in good time, you'll come to realize how talented and important you are to those around you.
Sorry for needlessly posting.....
Cho, this is the "daemons only" section of the forum, you know.
heh, sorry about that everyone.
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Post by cock of teh walk on Apr 8, 2005 16:33:09 GMT -5
Bad things can always happen , and will, whether you bring them upon yourself or not. Youd go whereever you wanted to go and do whatever you wanted to do. You cant always make life choices judging by other people and how they feel. You have to live your own life. Its nice to have people who care about you, and to be loved and to feel important, but thats not all thats out there. You cant not do something because of how it will affect others. You have to hurt people to be extraordinary. I didnt make it that way..it just is.
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