What if my Daemon is being mean?

[eternity]

My daemon is giving me advice, but I dont know if it's the right advice. I just found him today, and I asked him for advice and he was kinda telling me not what I wanted to hear, and that I couldn't fix myself or something. I wanted to hear something encouraging though.

I asked him, "Do you think I'm boring?"

He said, "You're not really boring, but you dont talk a lot and you're not being the best of yourself, and even if you were you probably still wouldn't be able to grasp the concept of "interesting" and you just need to be around people more like you, because they can only accept you."

what do u think?

please answer me people

[Dan]

Hmmmm........
Well there are several good reasons he might be criticizing you, I would think the most likely reason for him to criticize you would be because he wants to give you a "Kick in the butt" to get you moving in the right direction.
It could also be possible that you really know what you need to do, but don't want to go to the trouble of doing it.
I suppose also, you two might have just had a really mentally stressful day, occasionally Dal snaps at me, althogh not often.
Don't get discouraged, knowing your dæmon is well worth the troubles.
I really hope that my advice helps.
Best wishes
~Dan+Dal

[cock of teh walk]

ya i used to worry because my daemons harsh too. like, really harsh, intense sometimes i cant talk to him.
maybe deep down your just a real hard ass.
...i mean..tough cookie..?

[Yumi]

My guess is similar to Dan's - that your daemon was trying to give you a sort of mental swat in order to get you to move in a new direction. I don't think that he was being mean to you, just that it was the most effective way of getting the message across at the time. When Kara thinks that I'm being particularily silly about something, she'll do that sort of thing to me, too. Generally, it's because what she's telling me really is something that I know already, and she wants to make me think about it from another point of view, so I reach that realization myself. Sometimes she does it in words, and other times it equals to a mental bop upside the head from her paws, but it's never done in a hurtful way, just to help. I think that's the most important thing to keep in mind - your daemon wants what's best for you. Maybe thinking about the situation and his reply a bit more and talking to him about it will help.

[J and Captiosus]

You consider that mean?! You should hear the things Capt says to me. He's giving your constructive critisism. 'ts alright.

[Tyrannus et Callida]

Sy does that with me, sometimes, but in a more sarcastic way.

[Cat]

Hm. Pocket and I argue a fair bit. If anyone were to hear it, they'd think we were being really vicious ( like Lawrence gets mad at Pocket everytime Pocket says something like "::bites Cat::" on IM ). But I know he doesn't mean to get me down or anything, he's just trying to improve my attitude. With swearing.

Pocket: "Oh, you are such a friggin' pain in the ass, Cat!"
Me: "At least I'm not a total jerk!"

Yeah, we snarl and snap at each other, but it's just what we do. I don't think anyone's relationship with their dæmon is perfect. Dun worry about it. I agree with Dan and everyone, and as J said, it's just "constructive criticism". ^^;

[|3200k1]

I agree. In the long run,your daemon being mean will help you. He's not like real people in this world who will try to hide the truth from you or such to get you to like them- hei's your daemon and will be honest with you always,even if it means hurting you. Also,I'm extremely nice,so my daemon balances me out by being a total jackass. Hes rude and always makes fun of people and tells me how their bad,but I know it's jsut so that I'll realize that people are human and have bad points-i get attached to people too easily and hei helps me with that. And we argue allt he time as well.x P

[Kamy]

Cat said:

Hm. Pocket and I argue a fair bit. If anyone were to hear it, they'd think we were being really vicious ( like Lawrence gets mad at Pocket everytime Pocket says something like "::bites Cat::" on IM ). But I know he doesn't mean to get me down or anything, he's just trying to improve my attitude. With swearing.

Pocket: "Oh, you are such a friggin' pain in the ass, Cat!"
Me: "At least I'm not a total jerk!"

Yeah, we snarl and snap at each other, but it's just what we do. I don't think anyone's relationship with their dæmon is perfect. Dun worry about it. I agree with Dan and everyone, and as J said, it's just "constructive criticism". ^^;

ya, i agree with Cat and J, and pcket don't hurt her.

[Zoe 'n' Calosta]

Your daemons only telling you this because it's what you need to hear. It's like what Rhy said, he's not like people in our world who'll hide things from you, he's teeling you this because it will help you in the long run. Sure it may upset you, but the truth hurts, and maybe he's just trying to help you make yourself a better person? Cal can sometimes be like that but he always says 'gotta be cruel to be kind' and I take all his advice with a pinch of salt, I heed it but don't take it in too deeply so that it hurts. Your daemon wouldn't deliberately hurt you, he's just trying to help

[rave & phair]

Even this is repeating what everyone else has said: Your dæmon is your true self. What he says is really what you think of yourself deep down. Dæmons bring that to the surface. It helps in the long run, trust me.

[Kat12399]

Most of the time daemons are right. Well, Ritián is ALWAYS right. If your daemon says that you talk a lot maybe you do and you should mostly take your daemons advise. If your daemon says she/he hates you then maybe you hate yourself for something you have done lately. Ritián often tells me to shut it and at the time I actually AM suppose to be quiet.